That is a scary thought for some couples or for one person in the relationship. People often worry the therapist will judge them or take sides when they disclose their problems. They often worry their issues are not “normal” or their relationship is more troubled than most other people’s. They wonder if coming to counseling is too little too late. Often, each person thinks the relationship would be fine “if only my partner would change.”
Sometimes what a couple needs is a bit of validation that their struggle makes sense under the circumstances, a little information, and a few tools for better communication. Sometimes they need some healing work from past painful interactions in the relationship or in childhood.
Most couples in my years of practice have left the first few sessions with hope for their relationship and a sense of the way forward. Loving and courageous people have been able to learn, grow and work their way through very painful life experiences in couples therapy.
The field of psychology has evolved many approaches to working with couples and I have enjoyed keeping up with the latest in approved methods. My training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) gives my clients a clear path to creating the relationship they desire.